Why are my boobs smaller than my friends?

Well i’ll cut to the chase,all my mates have big boobs and i feel like im the only one with small ones im 14 this year and ive not gone into a B yet! its horrible i cant wear vest tops or anything,why am i so strange?

Danny Says:

Beauty doesn’t depend on what size cup you are.. it doesnt make you strange. there are beautiful women such as keira knightly who have no boobs but are naturally beautiful

you should be happy with what you have been given, also you haven’t stopped growing so don’t worry just yet :)
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Why are my friends avoiding me ?

Recently I broke up with my boyfriend and I feel like my friends are avoiding me I think it’s because I don’t have the latest “gossip” on boys and I don’t want to have a boyfriend at the moment. what should I do ?

Danny Says:

Firstly, if you don’t want a boyfriend you shouldn’t have a boyfriend, so you did the right thing by breaking up with him. It’s kinder on him that way.

Secondly, it probably goes without saying that if your friends are avoiding you because you don’t have enough ‘gossip’ for them, then they aren’t really your friends at all. Having said that, I wouldn’t jump to any conclusions as to why you think they might be avoiding you, you need to simply bite the bullet and ask them about it.

They might not realise what they are doing or how they are making you feel, or there might be another reason which can easily be solved, but you will never know until you ask.

If it turns out that you were right with your assumptions, I would strongly advise you to try and make some new friends. Sounds like a daunting task and you may feel like it is simply not an option, but there are so many people out there who would be glad to have you as a friend regardless of what gossip you can provide them with.

Join some groups, or take some extra classes about things you are interested in and just generally get involved, while you are doing all these great things and enjoying taking part in experiences you enjoy, the making friends part will come naturally.

I hope this is of some help to you,

Good luck!

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How can I stop self harming ?

Im 14 and ive got this huge secret, that nobody knows. I self harm, i started when i was messed around by this seriously dodgy guy about a year ago. it was just digging my finger nails into my arm and then burning myself then scrathing and stabbing with needles and eventually cutting, really deep and re-opening wounds. i really need to stop, i keep lieing to my friends and familly making up stuff like it was a cat or i scraped it along the wall and im generally belived as im so clumsey but i know i cant carry on like this. ive gone through some sh*t – bullying, arguments with my perants, relationship issues, friends, depression and anerexia, ive got over most of it in the last 5 years but not this. And ive got loads of early GSCEs at the moment because im in top set and all i do is it at home and study and i cant get my head striaght and i know i wont be able to deal with it if i fail them. there are a few boys in my form who have cut and stuff, and im really close to some of them and most peole just let them get on with it, but i know it will be so differnt if my best friends find out. theres this one person who i think knows and he would be the first person id tell if i could but im am absolutly terrified of what he’d do – either help me and be really kind or be totally discusted and completely hate me and tell EVERYONE. i know hes gone through simular stuff and thats hes supported others but hes also hated this other girl when he found out what she did. the worst thing he could do is tell my 3 bestest girl friends – they just wouldnt understand. im 100% certain about this, ive known them for years and they have some very strong opinions about this stuff. also my whole class would just think it attention seeking and stuff and i couldnt bare it as i know im in this class for the next 3 years and i cant move unless i drop some of my options. i just have too tell someone beacuse its getting out of hand (not just cuts on my arms but legs, hips and boobs) but i dont know if i can tell him and if its worth the risk, beacuse im sure he could help. theres nothing i can do, i cant stop on my own but i really need someones advice. please help me :L xx

Danny Says:

Hello, I’m sorry to hear about your situation it sounds like you’ve had a really rough time. You seem really aware that you need emotional help though, and that’s a great start! If you haven’t already, I would speak to your doctor- in confidence if you wish. He or she will be able to help you find a path not just in a medical sense, but emotionally too. I’ve included some links here to sites and organisations that might be able to inform and advise you. There’s some great advice and guidance in them, so please do take a look, and I really hope you can find a way forward! Good luck!

■ Young People and Self-Harm: www.selfharm.org.uk
■ The National Self-Harm Network: www.nshn.co.uk
■ Mind: www.mind.org.uk
■ The Samaritans: www.samaritans.org.uk
■ The Mental Health Foundation:
www.mentalhealth.org.uk
■ Young Minds: www.youngminds.org.uk

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Am I a victim of bullying ?

I think i am a victim of bulling. Don’t get me wrong I have great best friends, but recently my best friend has another friend, I’ve been nice to her and everything, given her sweets, sharing my lunch with her. But as soon as my best friend XXXX looks away I’m called tagalong or no-one really likes me, It makes me reeeeeeaaaaaaaallllllllllllllly sad. I’ve tried Ignoring but it’s hard to ignore a bully. I don’t want any action to be done, i only want to speak to her or find a way of avoiding her. How do i do this? I told Alex what was going on, but could you every believe that your best friend was a bully, she thinks i’m joking. How do i keep a best friend and berid of a bully.

From XXXXX (aka tagalong)

Danny Says:

I’ve been in that situation so I know it isn’t nice! When it happened to me I was confused because I thought my friend might fall out with me. The most important thing I want you to hold onto is to ‘keep on being you’, and be confident in yourself as a loyal friend and as a person. Don’t ever drop down to the bully’s level and name call, and don’t fight fire with fire. The best way you can show Alex you care is by talking to her, explaining the situation as seriously (but gently) as you can, and telling her that you value her as a friend but you’re finding the situation very difficult. Ask for her help. Then try and work on the other girl together- remember, she might be really nice too, but just feeling insecure about how close you and XXXX are. If you AND XXXX can show her that there’s room for three in the friendship, then she might not feel the need to bully anymore..

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Should I fancy this boy ?

Dear Danny, The boy ive been crushing over for ages, who’s two years older than me, and is in his last year, finally acknowledged me last week. Ive been thinking over the weekend what could it possibly mean. It was after school, and i was walking up the stairs from the bus station which we both get on to go to school with a few other school students, ( He gets on the bus with his friends and i also get on it with mine) and suddenly, i feel a nudge on my back and i turn around and its one of the crush’s friends, his friend says, “my mate likes you” and pointed at my crush, i then turned around pretty shocked at the fact they’d approached me, and just said, sarcastically “okay” then carried on walking up the stairs. My crush, then nudged my friend and said “my mate likes you”, i know for a fact he doesnt like her because, my friend is 11, and they boys are 15-16, i am 13 So i dont undertstand whether it was a joke or whether he genuinley likes me… help?! Please get back to me when you can. Thank you

Danny Says:

I think the only way to get to the bottom of that is find out yourself. But what you really need to be asking your self right now is, is this the kind of guy I want to be around? No better person to judge that than your self I’m afraid.

Due to your differing ages I would not say any more than that.

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